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Flat James came calling us. He is conflict-shy, which is partially a good thing, but we do think he could do with some assertiveness in his butt. So we talked a little about what causes one to understand that a conversation just turned into an argument and how to proceed from there.

We mentioned that in arguing you should be aware of distinguishing tactics from reasons.
‘Because I am bigger Than you’ is not a reason.
That is a tactic, and it is called intimidation.

‘Because you are stupid’ is not a reason.
It is a tactic and it it called insult.

‘Because you usually do it’ wrong’ is not a reason.
That is a tactic, and it is called belittling.

‘Because I love you’ is not a reason.
That is a tactic, and it is evading the issue.

‘Because you are So much better at it’ is not a reason.
That is a tactic, and it is called flattery…

Arguments that use tactics like that are so common in our culture that we don’t notice them any more.

But think about the area of journalism or the academic world.. Would you get away with writing a piece, ending it with ‘it is true because I say so’?

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